I am thinking that my days as a SAHM are counted: I am determined to reintegrate the ‘workforce’, after 2 years of partial and 2 years of total absence.
Now I never saw myself staying at home, but I am glad that I did, seeing so much of my boy growing up was absolute bliss and we had and still have daily fun.
And as much as my break from working was partly voluntary, partly beyond my control (immigration travels..), I am not really going back for the fun, but also for the money. And maybe a bit to get my brain out of the house too.
But if there is one thing I have learnt as a SAHM, it’s that being at home all day doesn’t mean you become the perfect housewife, far from it.
For me, it’s more the opposite : When I was working full time, although I had messy ‘hot spots’, my household as such was rolling ! It wasn’t neat, but it was cosy and clean and I had no problem having people over at any time. (Now, I only have people over who can deal with the dogthing, but that’s another story)
Admittedly, I did not have a toddler or preschooler to add to my mess and distract me with his needs for playing, food, kisses or attention of all kind, but being out of the house made me schedule my week at home so much more and I think seriously, I got lots more done.
Now with MrAwesome, I am blessed with a equally messy husband who luckily has low expectations on my housewifey qualities.
No pressure there. My son is now mostly messy in his own room and that’s ok.
But it comes to a point where I don’t feel happy with the mess myself anymore and I dread the time where we ALL, with my son starting prepschool next week and me hopefully getting some job to start with, will have more time ‘out’ – because then being together will be even more precious, and I’ll want to do even less! Or at least not do boring household stuff.. But then nothing gets done anymore. And the house will stink and sink. Not an option.
With the beginning of the year, some mommy bloggers have signed up to different sites out there, to tackle their clutter, get more routines going and finally getting stuff done. There’s quite a choice of sites …
(Years ago, I had signed up to a Yahoo group – MyMessyHouse or so.. It brought me a cluttered mailbox and tons of yucky spam. Still had the hot spots tho. )
I haven’t really looked into all of them but one that I find personally appealing for it’s system as much as its design is
(..& creativity thrives where clutter doesn’t)”
talks to me, not because I consider myself openly or secretly an Artist, but because it’s whenever I want to think, create, write that I feel most of the restlessness caused by undone chores or actual mess surrounding me!
So not with the New Year (did we say how badly it has introduced itself so far? well, it really has.), but with a new phase in my life, I have decided that I need to make serious efforts to get our house back on track, because it’s the centre of our family and an organized, decluttered HOME is what every family needs to thrive. I am not seeking perfection, I just want a better feel to it all. I don’t want to throw it all out, but I need some organisation !
Did anybody really turn their household mess around with the help of the Flylady & Co ? Who is only just starting, like me, to get serious about a system to help discipline themselves and ultimately have more fun at home ?